This message on a friend's wall made me stop in my track and I started to think about this statement. Such a strong and deep thought!
When I look back in life I see how we often do everything in our ability to please people so that they stay with us. When we come across a relationship we want badly, we do everything in our might to make it work. Doing things that would make them happy, spend a lot of time with them and in their absence spend time thinking of them and making it more special and closer. Our lives revolve around them. We fill ourselves with these relationships and soon lose ourselves completely in the bargain. We complete ourselves through them and feel life is complete and things would be that way always. We depend on them and support them in maximum ways possible. Giving ourselves piece by piece till we completely lose ourselves. Happy and content we think we are and we feel that the relationship shall remain completely the same over the years and the feelings shall never change in them. But does that really happen? Do relationships remain this way always? What are the repercussions?
No relationship remains the same. They change over the years. When you give yourself so much to the other , you are completely dependent on them and are becoming extremely vulnerable. You are inviting them and saying " come hurt me". We should be prepared for this but can we ever be fully prepared? Its like a live bomb that explodes every second. One is so lost by giving so much that one loses the relationship with oneself. Often we hear the term -"you complete me". Its sad that we allow someone to do so since we should be so much at peace with ourselves that they should be our extention. If you allow them to complete you, you lose to be incomplete in their absence and you are alone and miserable.
Thus its important to be giving but not at the cost of oneself. never lose yourself since if you are incomplete you stand to fail on other fronts since you are constantly trying to find that missing piece of yours. being at peace with yourself such that days should pass and you shouldn't be uncomfortable with this closeness. When we are happy and complete inside, we share better parts of ourselves. So give but make sure you don't lose your part but extend yourself such that it makes you stronger and makes you believe in yourself much more. When alone, you are at peace and are complete awareness of life and happiness.
May each one of us finds this peace and may we be our best company since the best company spreads smiles and happiness around.
Thus its important to be giving but not at the cost of oneself. never lose yourself since if you are incomplete you stand to fail on other fronts since you are constantly trying to find that missing piece of yours. being at peace with yourself such that days should pass and you shouldn't be uncomfortable with this closeness. When we are happy and complete inside, we share better parts of ourselves. So give but make sure you don't lose your part but extend yourself such that it makes you stronger and makes you believe in yourself much more. When alone, you are at peace and are complete awareness of life and happiness.
May each one of us finds this peace and may we be our best company since the best company spreads smiles and happiness around.
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